While driving home from school one afternoon in October of 1988, my mom told my big sister and I that she had a surprise for us when we got home.
“Is it candy?!” My sister inquired excitedly.
I agree that that would have been a most excellent surprise, but her guess proved to be way off the mark: the big news was that my mom was having a baby!
Actually, she was having two babies, but we didn’t know that yet. That news came as another surprise a couple of months later, when my mom came home from the doctor with a funny-looking ultrasound photo and my other big sister asked what the hell was wrong with our baby, since it looked like the poor thing had a giant misshapen head.
Once we all got over the initial shock (my poor mom apparently laughed in the doctor’s face when he told her she was marinating not one but two fetuses), the excitement set in. I was the baby of the family, and I couldn’t believe my luck: not only would I finally get to be a big sister, but I was going to have two little sisters to play with! And even though my mom decided to let their sex be a surprise, I just knew they would be girls. Throughout my mom’s entire pregnancy, I never once envisioned a brother — I guess the fact that the first four of us were girls led me to believe that a brother wasn’t even a possibility.
And I was right! (Sorry, Dad.)
From the day they were born, I’ve been their #1 fan. As a six-year-old, I was just beside myself with amazement at their tiny size, their cute little smiles, and their twinliness (there really is something special about seeing twins together). I’ve shared this before, but it’s worth a repeat appearance today — behold the “thank you” note I made my mom for giving me my wonderful little sisters:
Just look at them — how could I not be enamored? I took my role as big sister very seriously. I was incredibly protective of them, even going so far as to force them to do “kidnapping drills” with me when they were toddlers, wherein I did some tests and timed whether it would be faster for me to pick them both up and run away from the kidnapper or to hold their hands and have them run alongside me — they were so damn cute I was convinced they were prime targets for kidnappers; I also apparently assumed that I would be with them at the time of this hypothetical kidnap attempt and thus available to aid them in their escape.
(If you’re wondering, two-year-olds run pretty slow; I determined that if a kidnapping situation were to arise, I was going to have to pick them up and make a run for it.)
When I had to go along with them to the doctor to get some routine vaccinations, I cried so hard in anticipation of their pain that my mom had to send me out to wait in the hallway. Another time, my mom had to scold them for doing something naughty and toddler-y, and again I sobbed — how dare she cause tears to come out of those adorable little twinny eyes! And when one twin completed her potty training faster than the other and was permitted to wear big-girl panties while the other twin was still in diapers, I had a serious and tear-filled discussion with my long-suffering mother about how the diapered twin was sure to develop self-esteem problems as a result of the inequality.
(Jamie, is it true? Were you permanently scarred by those three days that Hayley got to wear panties and you didn’t??? I knew it, your life totally sucks and it’s all because Mom wouldn’t listen to me about the underwear disparity! I TRIED!!!!)
Today, those cute little babies are 24 years old, and I’m still their #1 fan. They’re smart, funny, successful, unique (yes, even though they’re twins), and, since they look like me, totally gorgeous. From the moment my mom told me I was going to be a big sister, I knew I was in for something special — but I never could have guessed just how much I would love them.
Happy birthday to my favorite twins. Your present is that I won’t make you run kidnapping drills with me next time I see you.