Growing up with five sisters and loads of cousins, I always assumed I’d wind up with a bunch of kids myself. I harbored a secret pity for only children: aren’t they lonely? Isn’t the boredom just crushing? With whom do they mock people at church and family parties? And how do they know what’s cool without an older sibling to copy? I would never consider inflicting such a fate on my child — siblings were surely a must!
Just look at how much I loved having a big family — I wrote a freakin’ thank you note to my mom after she had my twin little sisters, as if they existed purely for my enjoyment:
I also took them to show-and-tell — as the exhibit! — in both first and second grade. They were a big hit and I was totally proud of my status as Big Sis.
TFW, on the other hand, grew up with the complete opposite mindset. He has no siblings, precisely one cousin, and never once wished he hadn’t been an only child, largely because of all the wrestling action figures and video games his grandparents showered upon him at every visit. I had to do a lot of hard work to convince him that having actual human beings to grow up with could possibly outweigh the benefits of being the sole benefactor of grandparent spoiling.
Before we even got pregnant with Bubba, we reached a compromise and a tentative plan: we’d have two babies — at least five years apart, so the elder would be somewhat self-sufficient before we had to start over with the baby stuff again — and leave it at that.
This sounded great to me right up until about a week after having Bubba. Exhausted, hormonal, and in a great deal of pain thanks to my busted tailbone, I sobbed to TFW: “I don’t think I can ever do this again!!! (sob, hiccup, sob) It’s so ha-a-a-a-a-rd!”
Of course, I lived through those first few rough weeks, and with Bubba being such a joy to be around, I often have a hard time even remembering how hard those early days were. In fact, approximately 20 times a day I find myself so drunk on love and happiness that my brain tries to tempt me: “Isn’t this wonderful? Why don’t you have another baby? Your life will be even MORE wonderful!”
Luckily, thus far I’ve been able to shove these delusions back into the (gravely overworked) Nonsense Center of my brain where they belong, but the better life with Ry Ry gets, the more they persist. Just in case the Nonsense Center ever accidentally overflows into the neighboring Logic And Good Choices Department, I’ve decided to document exactly why having another baby any time soon is NOT a good idea.
Here they are… the top ten reasons Bubba must remain an only child for (at least) several more years: